Picture this: you’re out enjoying a walk with your pup, the sun is shining, your dog is sniffing every third blade of grass like it’s a Michelin-starred buffet, and then… it happens. A stranger approaches, eyes gleaming, hand halfway extended, and they ask: “Can I pet your dog?”
Cue the awkward pause.
We’ve all been there. You want to be polite, but maybe your dog isn’t feeling social. Or maybe they’re a jumper, a licker, a nervous Nancy, or a squirrel-chasing Houdini on a leash. So, what do you say without sounding like the grumpy pet parent from the dog park?
The Classic “Yes, But…”
This one works wonders when your dog is friendly, but they have quirks. You could say:
“Sure, she loves people—but she gets a little excited and might try to give you a hug.”
Or:
“Of course. Just let him sniff you first—he likes a formal introduction.”
This gives the person a heads-up and makes you sound like a professional dog whisperer.
The Gentle “Not Today, Thanks”
Sometimes your pup just isn’t up for it. That’s totally okay.
“Thanks for asking, but he’s in training right now.”
“She’s feeling a little shy today—we’re working on her confidence.”
People usually appreciate honesty (and those who don’t? They’re probably cat people 😜).
Funny Deflections for the Socially Anxious
Not in the mood to explain your whole dog’s backstory? Go with humor.
“He’s under strict orders from the Squirrel Surveillance Unit. No distractions.”
“She’s on a ‘No-Petting’ cleanse this week. Vet’s orders.”
Laughter = social tension defused.
When It’s a Kid Asking
Awwww. It’s hard to say no to tiny humans with big puppy-loving eyes.
“He’s still learning how to be gentle with kiddos—let’s wave from here.”
“Do you want to give her a treat instead? She’s better at snacking than snuggling.”
(Pro tip: always carry some safe treats for these moments.)
The Enthusiastic “Yes!”
If your dog lives for attention and belly rubs:
“Yes, she’s been waiting for you her whole life. Go ahead.”
“Only if you’re prepared to be loved forever.”
Then stand back and enjoy the cuteness explosion.